Being part of a small group in a church is about belonging, just as to be a Christian is not about doing, it is about being. To understand belonging we have to first understand fellowship. Mathew 9:36 says, “When Jesus saw the crowds, he had compassion on them because they were …sheep without a shepherd.” We need to see people through Jesus’ eyes. Fellowship is not just about a meeting, it is about doing life together.
The core of fellowship is understanding the questions people have:
- Do I fit here? This is a question about acceptance.
- Does anybody know me? This is about friendship.
- Am I needed? This is about value.
- What is required of me? A question of expectation.
- What is the advantage of joining? A question of benefit.
A group leader needs to create an environment for people to BELONG by:
Building authentic Connections – courtesy, honesty, and humility.
Experiencing life together – being loved, being served and being admonished.
Listening to one another – slow to speak and really hearing.
Owning your group – keep going and growing.
Nurturing love – meeting people’s needs.
Growing through tension – conflict resolution and protection.
I’ll have more to share about becoming a group leader in future articles.